Loving an Alcoholic is Hard
And more than anything you just want to be happy and build a loving life together.
But often it feels hopeless
and it's so painful...
You want them to stop drinking and killing themselves.
You want them to choose you and the family over alcohol.
You want them to behave like the person you first met.
You want to trust them and believe they will do what they say.
You want them to appreciate you and love you for all that you do.
You want to be able to communicate with them and not have them walk off or get angry.
You want them to stop lying and be honest.
But they don't do any of these things.
And you are fed up, frustrated and tired.
You think...will you EVER be happy with someone who is so untrustworthy and unwilling to change?
Nothing is more painful than asking the person that you love to choose you and the family over alcohol and they don't...
Hi, I'm Deanna
Certified Life Coach
I want your life to be filled with happiness and love and if you want that too, I can help.
I understand what it feels like to be in an alcoholic relationship.
I was married to an alcoholic for almost 20 years. During that time I tried everything I could to save our relationship.
I suffered in that relationship just like you are suffering now.
I had the same feelings and thoughts that you are currently experiencing right now.
I was embarrassed, ashamed, humiliated, discouraged, angry and beaten down from living with an alcoholic.
And on top of that I beat myself up with guilt and disappointment, telling myself how stupid I was to have stayed in this relationship and how I should have "known better".
But even during this dark time there was always a part of me that knew
I deserved better.
So I started to get help, first with Al-Anon and then therapy and slowly my life started to change.
I learned to create boundaries, I no longer accepted lies, I found my voice and it started to build my confidence.
It took sometime, but when the time finally came to choose between taking him back yet again or putting my kids and myself first, I chose us!
It was the hardest and best decision I ever made.
The one thing I recognized in that period of my life is how few resources there are for women in alcoholic relationships and how many there are for the alcoholic.
So I got certified as a Life Coach to offer women another option beyond Al-Anon and Therapy.
I had searched for someone who could have helped me while I was in my relationship. Someone who could understand what I was going through but would not judge me. Someone who knew what it was like to live with an alcoholic. Someone who could support me and believe in me when I did not.
If I had found this person years ago, perhaps I would have recognized what was keeping me stuck in this relationship.
If I had known then what I know now, I would have left sooner and saved myself a lot of heartache.
Because like you, I too just wanted to be happy and live out my dream!
And now I am, I have a new career, an amazing guy and a life that would have never been possible if I didn't go after the happiness that I knew was possible for me.
And that's what I want for you to find love, peace and the happiness that is possible for YOU TOO!
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In this powerful coaching setting, you get personalized, one-on-one coaching which helps you create the happiness you desire, no matter what your partner does.
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Tara F.
I liked the idea of talking with someone who lived this life with an alcoholic…. Who KNEW what I was saying and feeling…. Someone who can relate and be able to finish my sentences because they experienced the exact same thing. Deanna showed me that life really does go on- I was never alone, and she helped me regain my self worth. Thank you so much Deanna!